By Roz Jones
Let’s talk about something we often overlook: the commute. Whether your commute is five minutes or fifty, it can set the tone for how your day unfolds. I used to think of my commute as just another stressful part of my morning, but over time, I’ve realized that it doesn’t have to be that way. Our caregiving day doesn’t begin when we arrive—it starts the moment we step out the door.
What if, instead of viewing your commute as a hassle, you saw it as an opportunity? A chance to center yourself, reset your mind, and prepare for the responsibilities ahead. In this blog, I’m sharing some strategies that have helped me transform my commute into a calm, rejuvenating part of my day.
1. Plan Your Route Ahead of Time
The first step to a stress-free commute is choosing the best route. Take a few minutes the night before to check traffic patterns, road closures, or weather conditions. Apps like Google Maps or Waze can give you real-time updates, helping you avoid unexpected delays.
For me, choosing the scenic route—even if it adds a few minutes—has been a game-changer. A quiet road or a drive through nature can make all the difference in starting the day with a calm mindset.
2. Allow Extra Time
I’ve learned that rushing is the fastest way to start my day on the wrong foot. If your commute typically takes 20 minutes, give yourself 30. Those extra 10 minutes aren’t just a buffer—they’re peace of mind. When you arrive with time to spare, you’ll feel more grounded and ready to focus on caregiving.
3. Turn Your Commute Into “You” Time
Let’s face it—our caregiving roles can make it hard to carve out time for ourselves. Your commute is the perfect opportunity to create that space. Here are a few ideas to make your drive or ride more enjoyable:
- Listen to uplifting podcasts or audiobooks: Choose topics that inspire or relax you.
- Play calming music: Create a playlist of your favorite feel-good songs or soothing instrumental tracks.
- Practice mindfulness: If you’re a passenger or using public transit, try a guided meditation app like Calm or Headspace.
For me, listening to a motivational podcast sets the tone for a positive day. It’s my time to recharge and focus on my mindset.
4. Practice Deep Breathing
I know this sounds simple, but it works. If you find yourself stuck in traffic or feeling overwhelmed, take a moment to practice deep breathing. Inhale for a count of four, hold for four, and exhale for four. Repeat a few times, and you’ll feel your stress levels start to drop.
5. Set an Intention for the Day
As caregivers, we often focus on everyone else, but it’s just as important to check in with ourselves. Use your commute to set an intention for the day. Maybe it’s patience, gratitude, or focus. I like to think about how I want to show up for my loved ones and myself—it helps guide my actions and keeps me grounded.
Your commute doesn’t have to be stressful or rushed. By planning ahead, allowing extra time, and using the journey as a moment for yourself, you can transform it into a calm, intentional start to your caregiving day. Check out my previous blog, Transform Your Daily Journey into a Serene Retreat for more tips on how you can transform your commute.
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