6 Constructive Ways To Deal With A Challenge

By Roz Jones

Life would be boring without challenges, even if you wish for just a day without some type of complication. However, just because you face difficult times doesn’t mean you won’t overcome them. 

It doesn’t matter whether you face challenges in your personal life, relationships or in your career, it’s common to plunge into a fight or flight and run in the opposite direction. 

It’s normal to feel compelled to run from problems instead of dealing with them head-on. The worst possible way to deal with challenges is to run, you have to face them. Luckily, we have six constructive ways for you to deal with a challenge. 

  1. Accept Reality 

You cannot control or change people. There are also things in life that you cannot control. You don’t need to understand why, all that matters is that you accept the reality that you can’t change anyone. You might see this challenge and think it’s your job to change it, but that just isn’t the case. You are more likely to progress the situation if you are able to accept the reality of it and deal with the challenges accordingly. 

  1. Don’t Lay Blame

It’s easy to paint yourself as the victim and blame everyone else but it is much more productive to take responsibility for the actions you take, the words you speak, and the decisions that you make. When you blame others for your challenges, you make yourself unlikeable, and simply make the challenge more difficult to overcome. Don’t point fingers, problem solve. 

  1. Detachment

It won’t be easy to do but detach yourself from the outcome. This allows you to analyze a situation from a more objective standpoint. It’s difficult to make the right decisions when you are attached to a particular result. 

For example, imagine that your challenge is the nerves you feel ahead of a public speaking appointment. How does this relate? You’re nervous and you are afraid of how people will react to you and your content. 

The fact of the matter is that not everyone will appreciate what you have to say. That doesn’t matter – you can’t allow yourself to get worked up over that, your job is to deliver the speech in the best way you can. The most efficient way to do so is to detach yourself from the situation. 

  1. Don’t Over-analyze

Overthinking is the worst possible thing you can do in any challenging situation. When you allow yourself to think about it too much you give doubt too much say. Over-analyzing in any situation makes it more difficult for you to accept the reality of it all, you will just increase that little voice that’s whispering that something isn’t right. It’s going to take you away from reaching your goal and just increase your frustration. 

  1. Embrace Change

Change happens all of the time, and challenges are a daily occurrence for so many people. No one really likes change, and while there are people who just get on with it, others can’t help but resist it at every turn. Often, the reason for this is that change forces people to live outside their comfort zone. You may be unhappy about change, but it’s not a permanent state and that’s what’s important to remember. You have to learn to accept change.

  1. No Comparisons

Don’t worry about what everyone else is doing – don’t worry about how they overcome challenges. This will just result in more frustration and you will always feel like you’re second (or third) best. You are responsible for creating your own success, you write your story – remember that when you find yourself facing a challenge.

One of the biggest reactions to dealing with challenges is overreacting – if you don’t learn how to control your emotions you will make decisions you later regret. Remember that when you next face a challenge.

Managing Adversity: The Resilience Mindset

By Roz Jones

In order to move from a place of simply surviving in life to a place of thriving, resilience is a necessary trait. At a basic level resilience is our ability to bounce back from tragedies and difficulties we encounter in life. 

At a more complex level, the resilience mindset embraces the idea that true resilience is our ability to navigate life, adapt to change, learn through adversity, and understand our feelings and emotional responses to situations. In order for this to be achieved, there must be a high level of personal awareness and insight which leads to a deep understanding of self (O’Keeffe, 2019). 

Resilience is an asset when it comes to managing adversity and taking on the role of a caregiver because it helps us to overcome it. Rather than crumbling under the pressure and weight of every challenge we encounter, we become able to assess the challenge, learn and grow from it as we go through it, and then move forward with the lessons we’ve been taught (O’Keeffe, 2019). It is resilience that empowers us to continue moving forward, learning, and growing, and building on the things we are learning in life. 

Keys to Developing a Resilient Mindset

In order to develop a resilient mindset, there are several qualities and practices that can be implemented. The following outlines several of those qualities and practices and their relation to the development of resilience. 

  • Optimism: A strong trait of those with a resilient mindset is an intentional optimistic outlook when approaching challenging situations. The way a person views a situation shapes the approach they take when dealing with the situation. 

A more positive outlook tends to yield a more positive outcome because individuals see opportunities as opposed to obstacles, and thus enthusiastically address issues versus hesitantly avoiding them (Mind Tools, 2020). Leading psychologist Martin Seligman explains that optimism is linked to resilience in that it helps people’s views on permanence, pervasiveness, and the personalization of hardships. 


Optimism leads people to see bad events as temporary rather than permanent, to prevent setbacks from impacting unrelated areas of their lives, and to not blame themselves when bad events occur. Thus, people can better pivot ad recover from challenges they experience (Mind Tools, 2020). 

  • Focus on What You Can Control: Learning to focus on what is within your control and releasing those things that are not is an important part of developing resilience. It is only those things within our control we have the ability to influence, thus exerting physical or mental and emotional energy on things outside of our control is mismanagement of time and energy (Miller, 2020). Individuals who spend their time and energy on what they can control become more resilient because they put their efforts towards those things that will have the greatest impact and produce the most results. This allows them to actually be effective and respond better to situations that arise (Mind Tools, 2020). 
  • Self-Awareness: Self-awareness is critical to the development of a resilient mindset. Self-awareness helps us to assess areas of ourselves and our lives where we need to improve and areas of our lives that are producing favorable results.

Self-awareness offers us key insights about ourselves that we can use to change, adapt, grow, or alter ourselves, our environment, or other elements. This ultimately contributes to resilience by helping us keep patterns and habits that help us adapt and respond to challenges while becoming aware of and purging patterns and habits that work against our goals and pursuits. 

If we can cultivate a resilient mindset our ability to cope with challenges in our lives will be strengthened. Rather than being overcome by negative situations and circumstances we will become empowered to overcome those situations and circumstances. By implementing the practices mentioned and others like it, we’ll be one step closer to better navigating the difficulties we encounter. 

References:

Miller, K. (2020). 5+ ways to develop a growth mindset using grit and resilience. PositivePsychology.com. https://positivepsychology.com/5-ways-develop-grit-resilience/

Mind Tools. (2020). Developing resilience: Overcoming and growing from setbacks. https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/resilience.htm

O’Keeffe, S. (2019, March 11). 4 aspects of a resilient mindset. https://thriveglobal.com/stories/4-aspects-of-a-resilient-mindset/

Why Wait to Experience Your Bucket List?

The term bucket list refers to experiences someone would like to have before they pass away or kick the bucket. Glorified in movies, generally a bucket list is completed by terminally ill people who are painfully aware of the fragility and short period of time we are alive. Most folks wander in a haze of work and family, putting things they would love to do off for a magical time when they will have:

  • More money
  • More time
  • More freedom
  • More opportunities 

They are blissfully unaware of the realities that there is no guarantee that you will live outside of this very moment– in an instant it might be over. 

Why wait to experience your bucket list? There’s no time like right now to live as if you were dying because the fact is… we are all dying from the moment we are born. 

What’s on your bucket list? 

Your bucket list should include the things- both great and small– that matter to you and your personal interests. Here are some prompts to get you stared: 

  • Places you want to see
  • Experiences you want to have
  • People you want to meet
  • Foods you want to try
  • Activities you want to engage in
  • People you want to impact
  • Ways you want to make a difference

Wow, that’s a hefty list right there. 

What would it take to check things off your list? 

Your bucket list should be a mixture of things you could do easily if you took the time and made them a priority co-mingled with things you want to do that take effort, planning, and stretch you. What would it take to accomplish some of the things off your list? How about these ideas: 

  • Research an activity or interest 
  • Start a bucket list Pinterest board
  • Start a savings account or envelope for a bucket list experience
  • Join a group or club doing an activity on your list
  • Make a reservation and set a date for an adventure
  • Take action and simply dive in

It doesn’t take a whole lot more than intention to get started experiencing the things you want to be, do, see, and have before you die. 

Life is fleeting so it doesn’t make sense to put off until tomorrow all the fun you could be having today! Create and experience your bucket list early on and don’t wait for the future to enjoy life’s opportunities.