“Caregivers Trials to Triumph”

No matter what came Lisa’s way, nothing was going to stop her from her dream of being a nurse.

Did you know that successful people deal with adversity? It’s true. If you read or hear the stories or profiles of most successful people they have a trial to triumph story. They use their life stories as a tool to show that you too can make your dream reality. Everyone likes a story of grit, grind, and conquer. As a caregiver you have daily successes because of the adversities that come with caregiving. Recognize your strength and flexibility to triumph in making  quick decisions.

You should read the profiles of successful people. They contain gems of information and can act as a resource for everyone else. The story is one aspect of reading about them. However, how they dealt with the situation is often a source of inspiration. When you become inspired, you increase your chances of facing and working through your own problems.

Inspiration last for only a period of time. You need to continue connecting yourself to people who are where you want to be. If you can, try to set aside time to read one story of a successful person every month. It will help you with your inspiration, and it can inspire you to rethink your course and learn from their mistakes.

The stories of some people are dated. However, their techniques may be timeless. A perfect example of this is Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People. The stories themselves describe people and occupations of days long gone. But, his techniques are as valid today as they were back then.

Reading is great and all, however execution is what make things happen. If you don’t take action you will not see any results. A plan without action is just a wish and wishing is not going to create the life you desire. People dream all the time, but those dreams can become reality when you put forth the work.

Reading the stories of people who are successful and knowing their adversities that they have and are conquering, helps create a connection of “Hey, they are just like me!” Hard work, determination, focus, strategy, and most of all a shift in their mindset is the common theme you see in successful people. Persistence and having a positive attitude during challenging times will take you far in facing any situation.

In the midst of you learning from successful people, you will be inspiration for someone else. Don’t hide your gifts and superpowers due to adversity, if anything push through. Know that you are not alone in dealing with challenges in life. Rich or poor, young or old, black or white, adversity has no prejudice of person. Be inspired, take action, and create the life you want.

When you digest stories of successful people, trials and triumphs, and connect with how they became successful, it will shift your mindset to greater. You become what you feed your mind, body, and soul.

Adversity Comes With Success

Did you know that successful people deal with adversity? It’s true. If you read or hear the stories or profiles of most successful people they have a trial to triumph story. They use their life stories as a tool to show that you too can make your dream reality. Everyone likes a story of grit, grind, and conquer.

You should read the profiles of successful people. They contain gems of information and can act as a resource for everyone else. The story is one aspect of reading about them. However, how they dealt with the situation is often a source of inspiration. When you become inspired, you increase your chances of facing and working through your own problems.

Inspiration last for only a period of time. You need to continue connecting yourself to people who are where you want to be. If you can, try to set aside time to read one story of a successful person every month. It will help you with your inspiration, and it can inspire you to rethink your course and learn from their mistakes.

The stories of some people are dated. However, their techniques may be timeless. A perfect example of this is Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People. The stories themselves describe people and occupations of days long gone. But, his techniques are as valid today as they were back then.

Reading is great and all, however execution is what make things happen. If you don’t take action you will not see any results. A plan without action is just a wish and wishing is not going to create the life you desire. People dream all the time, but those dreams can become reality when you put forth the work.

Reading the stories of people who are successful and knowing their adversities that they have and are conquering, helps create a connection of “Hey, they are just like me!” Hard work, determination, focus, strategy, and most of all a shift in their mindset is the common theme you see in successful people. Persistence and having a positive attitude during challenging times will take you far in facing any situation.

In the midst of you learning from successful people, you will be inspiration for someone else. Don’t hide your gifts and superpowers due to adversity, if anything push through. Know that you are not alone in dealing with challenges in life. Rich or poor, young or old, black or white, adversity has no prejudice of person. Be inspired, take action, and create the life you want.

When you digest stories of successful people, trials and triumphs, and connect with how they became successful, it will shift your mindset to greater. You become what you feed your mind, body, and soul.

Better Self-Care for Caregivers

By: Roz Jones

As a caregiver It can be difficult to make time for self-care in our busy schedules. We run from one commitment to another, filling every gap in our life with work, study, family and social events. The chaos of a caregiver modern life makes it even more important that we take the time to care for our individual wellbeing, both physically and mentally. If you are struggling with your own self-care, consider these five tips to improve your habits.

1. Add self-care to your normal routine

When planning your weekly schedule, make sure that you have time for self-care. Cementing its place in your routine means that you will be more likely to commit to self-care as you will have allocated time specifically reserved for it. The more often you practice self-care, the more it will become a habit and part of your regular life. 

2. Do what suits you

Self-care looks for different for everyone. Some people enjoy getting outdoors, others like catching up with friends and some people prefer sitting at home losing themselves in a good book or movie. Identify what makes you feel better and commit to that. Don’t feel pressured by what others consider self-care; long walks aren’t for everyone.

3. Practice gratitude

Engaging in regular gratitude practice is a valuable habit and a worthwhile way to spend your allocated self-care time. Take some time each day or week to write down three things that you are grateful for. Try to think of unique things that have happened for that week, rather than repeating the same common things each time. It may be difficult at first, but the more you practice gratitude the easier it will become. Regular participation in gratitude exercises trains your brain to be more thankful and positive about the things you have in your life, rather than focusing on the things you don’t have or things that aren’t going so well. 

4. Be brave and try something new

Trying something new is a great way to break the monotony of everyday life. Your mental health will benefit and you will learn new skills, both through the actual activity but also in regard to managing your nerves and being open to new opportunities. It’s a great way to take care of your mental, and depending on the activity, physical health.

5. Detox from social media

Social media can be a great way to keep in touch with people, but in can also lead to resentment through comparison. If you are feeling overwhelmed or finding yourself in a rut, take a break of social media to become more present and rejuvenate in the real world.

Aging Parents and Role Reversal

By Roz Jones

This is the day you thought would never happen.  Your roles in life are reversing.  You’re trying to make decisions for yourself and your Aging Parent.  What will be best for them without altering your life too drastically.  How do you keep up the pace and ultimately please everyone around you?  You are not alone in life, you have a family, significant other, a career to think about.  You want to balance everything to keep everyone happy and life as normal as possible.  Think again!  Those once a week visits or daily phone calls aren’t enough anymore.  Your parent needs care, the real kind.  

The care includes making sure they eat, that they take their meds, that their money isn’t being floundered away on TV shopping.  You have siblings that think Assisted Living or Nursing Facilities are awful and they don’t want to put Mom or Dad in one even though they also don’t want to help out.  How do you cope?  How do you deal with this situation without alienating every member of your family?

First understand, it’s not about you.  What I mean by that statement is that it is not about guilt and what some think is the “Right thing to do”.  It’s not about hanging on to someone that they used to be.  They are an elderly person in need of constant care and attention.  If you need a dose of growing up, this situation will make it happen whether you’re ready or not!

Start with their doctor.  Have an appointment to discuss the faltering health of your beloved parent.   You can also check into the hospital that their health care is associated.  Every hospital has an elder care group of some type.  The medical coverage will also have affiliations with elder sourcing.  Between the doctor and the medical coverage group, you may be able to determine the types of help and living style your parents current status requires.  Keep asking until you have the best situation for all concerned.  

It may be as simple as an Aide visiting once or twice a day to help with showering, dressing, meals and meds.  Their health may need more than that and the visiting nurse or doctor’s office is the place to apply the concern.  The best word to learn to help an elder parent is the same as if your infant child were being cared for and that is SAFETY. If safety is not at the level necessary, keep pushing until you get the help you need.  Keep on insisting the area of SAFETY.

It may take you time to uncover everything available to your parent to help with this care process but trust me, it will be worth it in the many years’ elder care can stretch out to be.  It is best to discuss with them all their health and medical, financial and personal situations before that day arrives. 

When they are older the best thing you can give them is you.  Spend quality time instead of stress time.  Have them over for a day and dinner instead of needing to pawn them off on someone else.  The resentment builds if you do this alone and there are many really good care facilities to take that burden off your shoulders.

Safety and honesty is what makes those later years a good memory!

Using Hospice Services for Dying at Home

Preparing for end of life means coming to terms with the fact that death is part of living. How you die may not be something you decide but sometimes where you die is in your control. Hospice services can help. 

Hospice Care is a type of health care that serves to relieve pain without treating the cause for the pain. The focus of a hospice team is to provide medical, emotional, and spiritual support to families with a terminal patient – generally in their own home. 

Some of the benefits of hospice care are:

  • Ability to die at home
  • Pain management 
  • Help with ancillary medical needs 
  • Provide education
  • Offer emotional support 

Being able to be at home during the final days of life can be a helpful and comfortable thing for entire families. Being in familiar surroundings with loved ones, pets, and personal belongings can make transitioning easier than being isolated in a sterile and noisy environment like a hospital. Most everyone prefers the idea of being home rather than away when they die.

If you or a loved one has a terminal diagnosis, you are likely a candidate for palliative care and eventually hospice. Your medical provider can help you connect with a hospice team where you will create a plan and set goals for your experience. This may include things like:

  • Comfort needs
  • Direct care needs
  • Choices during transition
  • Direct support for emotional and spiritual needs 

Hospice isn’t just about direct care when you are actively dying. It begins with a terminal diagnosis. Palliative care – while not considered hospice care – is a form of treating pain and making plans before hospice takes over providing final care. You do not have to be bed ridden to get support. Your medical team will include palliative care as part of your treatment plan.  

As things progress your hospice nurse will provide assistance to you and your family to help make things less scary and as comfortable as possible. Knowing someone is there who can help and that you can be at home at such an important time makes such big difference in your peace of mind and comfort during this process. Even after you pass, your hospice support team will help your family contact your mortuary and help ready your remains for your pre-planned funeral process.