Taking Control of Criticism

By Roz Jones

No one likes to be criticized. As a caregiver, it doesn’t feel good to have our mistakes pointed out or to be told that we’re not good enough. It’s human nature to want to be liked and accepted. So, when we receive criticism from the person we are taking care of or family members, it can feel like a personal attack. Whether the criticism is valid or not, it can still hurt our feelings and cause us stress. Criticism can hurt, but it doesn’t have to define us. In fact, criticism can be a helpful tool for our caregiver journey if we know how to handle it in the right way. As caregivers, we need to learn how to handle criticism in a constructive way. Here are some tips:

4 Tips for Handling Criticism Constructively

1. Don’t Take it Personally

It’s important to remember that criticism is not a reflection of who we are as people. Just because someone criticizes us doesn’t mean they don’t like us or think we’re valuable. Instead of taking criticism personally, try to see it as an opportunity for growth. If we can detach ourselves from our ego and view criticism objectively, it will be much easier to handle.

2. Listen to the Criticism

The first step in handling criticism is to actually listen to what the other person is saying. It can be easy to get defensive and tune out when we feel like we’re being attacked, but if we take a step back and really listen, we might find that there’s some truth to what the other person is saying. After all, they wouldn’t bother pointing out our flaws unless they thought we had the potential to improve. So, the next time you’re feeling defensive, try to listen to the criticism and see if there’s anything you can learn from it.

3. Respond calmly and rationally

When we’re feeling attacked, it’s tempting to lash out and say something that we’ll later regret. But responding calmly and rationally is always the best course of action. This doesn’t mean that you have to agree with the person who’s critiquing you—in fact, you may even want to disagree with them—but it’s important to do so in a respectful way. By responding in a calm and rational manner, you’ll show that you’re capable of handling criticism maturely and without getting defensive.  For example, you might say something like, “I can see why you might feel that way.” or “I appreciate your input.”  

4. Use Criticism as Motivation

Finally, remember that criticism can be used as motivation to improve ourselves. If someone points out a flaw that we weren’t aware of, we now have the opportunity to work on fixing it. And even if the criticism wasn’t accurate or constructive, we can use it as motivation to prove the critic wrong by becoming even better than before. So instead of letting criticism bring us down, let’s use it as fuel to propel us forward on our journey toward success. 

Learning how to handle criticism constructively is an important skill for caregivers. The next time someone criticizes you, try following these tips: defuse the situation by taking a step back, listening to what the other person is saying, and responding calmly and honestly. By doing so, you’ll be better equipped to manage conflict in a constructive way.


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Overcoming Caregiver Resentment & Anger

By Roz Jones

Caregiving can be one of the most rewarding and fulfilling jobs, but it can also be one of the most emotionally draining. As a caregiver, you are often faced with difficult decisions and tasks that can take an emotional toll on you. We are constantly taking care of other people’s needs while putting our own on the back burner. This can lead to feelings of stress, exhaustion, and even anger toward the person we’re caring for. Feeling resentful or angry is a perfectly normal response to these feelings, but if left unchecked, these emotions can lead to burnout. But it doesn’t have to be this way— with mindfulness, self-care, and a few simple techniques, you can learn how to manage your caregiver’s resentment and anger. Let’s take a look at how.

Identify & Acknowledge Your Feelings 

The first step in managing your feelings of resentment or anger is to identify what they are. This is important because understanding why you’re feeling this way will help you come up with strategies for dealing with it. For example, if you’re feeling overwhelmed by being a caregiver, that’s something that needs to be addressed so that it doesn’t lead to burnout. Knowing why you’re feeling resentful helps you find ways to cope with it. Once you’ve identified the source of your negative emotions, it’s important to acknowledge them — it’s okay to feel angry or resentful occasionally. Don’t try to push those feelings away or ignore them; recognizing that they exist is an important part of moving forward.

Find Healthy Outlets for Your Emotions

Once you’ve identified and acknowledged your feelings, it’s time to find healthy outlets for them. Exercise can be a great way to let off steam—go for a walk or run around the block, do some yoga or stretching exercises, or lift weights at home if you have the space. If exercise isn’t your thing, consider writing in a journal about your thoughts and feelings; express yourself freely, and don’t worry about editing what you write down. You could also call up an old friend for some much-needed social interaction (make sure you follow any local public health guidelines when doing so!). The key here is finding activities that make you feel better both physically and mentally. 

Set Boundaries 

As a caregiver, it is important to set boundaries for yourself and establish limits on what tasks or responsibilities you are willing and able to do. Setting boundaries allows you to create an environment where your needs are taken into account and respected by those around you. It also ensures that your own well-being is not neglected while carrying out your duties as a caregiver. 

Take Time for Yourself 

Being a caregiver can be demanding, both physically and mentally. It is important that caregivers take time for themselves in order to recharge their batteries so they can continue providing quality care without feeling burned out or resentful. Taking time off from caregiving responsibilities allows caregivers the opportunity to pursue their own interests and hobbies while still providing quality care when they return refreshed and recharged from their break. 

Caring for someone else can be both rewarding and challenging at times—it takes patience, understanding, and resilience. It is perfectly normal for caregivers to feel angry or resentful at times due to the demands of caregiving; however, it is important that these feelings are addressed properly in order to prevent them from becoming overwhelming or leading to burnout down the line. Learning how to manage these negative emotions before they escalate into something more serious is possible by following these steps. By taking small steps each day towards managing these difficult emotions, caregivers can find peace amidst the chaos of their roles as they continue providing care with love and compassion.


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2. Tools and Resources:  Find caregiver stress management tools and gain perspective from other caregiver’s experiences.

3. LEARN TO: Ask for help, accept help when it is offered, and acknowledge yourself on this caregiving journey. Hear from experts on how to balance caregiving responsibilities by taking care of your needs and involving others to help manage the natural stress and isolation of being a caregiver.