Transforming Your Commute into a Calm Start

By Roz Jones

Let’s talk about something we often overlook: the commute. Whether your commute is five minutes or fifty, it can set the tone for how your day unfolds. I used to think of my commute as just another stressful part of my morning, but over time, I’ve realized that it doesn’t have to be that way. Our caregiving day doesn’t begin when we arrive—it starts the moment we step out the door.

What if, instead of viewing your commute as a hassle, you saw it as an opportunity? A chance to center yourself, reset your mind, and prepare for the responsibilities ahead. In this blog, I’m sharing some strategies that have helped me transform my commute into a calm, rejuvenating part of my day.

1. Plan Your Route Ahead of Time

The first step to a stress-free commute is choosing the best route. Take a few minutes the night before to check traffic patterns, road closures, or weather conditions. Apps like Google Maps or Waze can give you real-time updates, helping you avoid unexpected delays.

For me, choosing the scenic route—even if it adds a few minutes—has been a game-changer. A quiet road or a drive through nature can make all the difference in starting the day with a calm mindset.

2. Allow Extra Time

I’ve learned that rushing is the fastest way to start my day on the wrong foot. If your commute typically takes 20 minutes, give yourself 30. Those extra 10 minutes aren’t just a buffer—they’re peace of mind. When you arrive with time to spare, you’ll feel more grounded and ready to focus on caregiving.

3. Turn Your Commute Into “You” Time

Let’s face it—our caregiving roles can make it hard to carve out time for ourselves. Your commute is the perfect opportunity to create that space. Here are a few ideas to make your drive or ride more enjoyable:

  • Listen to uplifting podcasts or audiobooks: Choose topics that inspire or relax you.
  • Play calming music: Create a playlist of your favorite feel-good songs or soothing instrumental tracks.
  • Practice mindfulness: If you’re a passenger or using public transit, try a guided meditation app like Calm or Headspace.

For me, listening to a motivational podcast sets the tone for a positive day. It’s my time to recharge and focus on my mindset.

4. Practice Deep Breathing

I know this sounds simple, but it works. If you find yourself stuck in traffic or feeling overwhelmed, take a moment to practice deep breathing. Inhale for a count of four, hold for four, and exhale for four. Repeat a few times, and you’ll feel your stress levels start to drop.

5. Set an Intention for the Day

As caregivers, we often focus on everyone else, but it’s just as important to check in with ourselves. Use your commute to set an intention for the day. Maybe it’s patience, gratitude, or focus. I like to think about how I want to show up for my loved ones and myself—it helps guide my actions and keeps me grounded.

Your commute doesn’t have to be stressful or rushed. By planning ahead, allowing extra time, and using the journey as a moment for yourself, you can transform it into a calm, intentional start to your caregiving day. Check out my previous blog, Transform Your Daily Journey into a Serene Retreat for more tips on how you can transform your commute.

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How to Have Distraction-Free Mornings for Caregivers

By Roz Jones

If there’s one thing I know about mornings, it’s that they can go sideways fast. You start the day with the best of intentions, but before you know it, distractions take over—an unexpected phone call, an email that can’t wait, or even your own racing thoughts about what’s coming next. I’ve been there more times than I can count, and I’ve learned the hard way that letting distractions take charge sets the tone for a chaotic day.

But here’s the good news: we can reclaim our mornings by identifying and tackling those distractions head-on. Today, I’m sharing some practical strategies that have helped me—and so many other caregivers—create calm, focused mornings that set the stage for a productive day.

Step 1: Identify What’s Distracting You

Before we can fix the problem, we need to figure out what’s pulling our attention. Is it your phone buzzing with notifications? A cluttered space that makes it hard to focus? Or maybe it’s your own mental to-do list running on repeat? Take a moment to pinpoint your top distractions.

For me, it was my phone. Every buzz, ding, and email pulled me out of my morning routine and into someone else’s agenda. Once I recognized that, I started setting my phone to “Do Not Disturb” during my morning hours. It was a small change that made a huge difference.

Step 2: Declutter Your Morning Space

Our environment has a big impact on how we feel and focus. If the space where you start your day is cluttered, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed before you’ve even begun.

Try this: Set aside 5-10 minutes in the evening to tidy up your morning space. Clear off your kitchen counter, organize your desk, or prep the area where you like to enjoy your coffee or journal. Waking up to a clean, organized space helps you feel calmer and more in control.

Step 3: Set Morning Boundaries

One of the hardest lessons I’ve learned is that it’s okay to set boundaries. Mornings are your time to prepare for the day, and protecting that time is crucial.

Start by letting your family, friends, or co-workers know that you’ll be unavailable for certain periods in the morning. Maybe you block off 7:00–7:30 AM for meditation, stretching, or quiet reflection. It’s not selfish—it’s necessary. When you show up for yourself first, you’re better equipped to show up for others throughout the day.

Step 4: Create a Distraction-Free Morning Routine

Build a morning routine that minimizes distractions by planning ahead. For example:

  • Prepare your clothes, meals, or caregiving supplies the night before.
  • Use a simple checklist to stay on track with your morning tasks.
  • Schedule specific times to check your phone, email, or messages later in the day.

When you have a clear plan, it’s easier to stay focused and avoid getting sidetracked.

Step 5: Acknowledge Mental Distractions

Sometimes, the distractions come from inside our own heads—worries about the day ahead or the endless to-do list we carry as caregivers. I’ve found that writing things down can be a lifesaver.

Keep a notebook or a sticky pad nearby, and if a thought pops up, jot it down and let it go for the moment. You can come back to it later, but for now, you’re creating space for a calm and focused start to your day.

Distractions don’t have to control your mornings. By identifying what’s pulling your attention, setting boundaries, and creating a routine that works for you, you can reclaim those precious morning hours and set a positive tone for the rest of the day. If you missed last week’s blog, 7 Fresh Habits Every Caregiver Should Start This Year, I encourage you to check it out. It’s the perfect complement to today’s post and offers even more ways to build a powerful morning routine.

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Crafting a Strategic Schedule for Caregivers

By Roz Jones

Let me ask you a question: Do you feel like you’re in control of your mornings, or do they control you? I’ve been in both places, and I can tell you that when you take charge of your morning with a strategic plan, it changes everything.

As caregivers, our mornings often set the tone for how the rest of the day will unfold. Without a clear plan, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed or like we’re constantly playing catch-up. But with a little intention and structure, mornings can become a powerful tool to help us stay calm, organized, and ready for whatever the day may bring.

Today, I want to walk you through how to create a morning blueprint that prioritizes what matters most while leaving room for flexibility.

Step 1: Start with Mental Preparation

One thing I’ve learned is that a clear mind leads to a clear day. Before diving into your tasks, take a few moments to mentally prepare for what lies ahead.

For me, this means sitting down with my planner or notebook and taking a deep breath. I ask myself: What are the most important things I need to focus on today? This helps me frame my priorities and feel grounded before the day’s chaos kicks in.

If you’re not a fan of journaling or planners, even a quick mental checklist can work. The key is to take a moment to center yourself and set an intention for the day.

Step 2: Prioritize Tasks with Intention

We all have long to-do lists, but trying to tackle everything at once is a recipe for stress. Instead, let’s focus on the most critical tasks first.

Here’s a tip I use: Write down your top three priorities for the day. These are the non-negotiables—the tasks that will make the biggest impact on your loved one’s care or your own well-being. Once those are clear, fit in the smaller tasks around them.

For example, if medication management is a priority, block out time in the morning to prepare and review everything. If self-care is on your list (and it should be!), schedule that in too.

Step 3: Create a Flexible Schedule

As caregivers, we know that no two days are the same. Unexpected things will come up, and that’s okay. The goal isn’t to create a rigid schedule—it’s to have a structure that keeps you on track while allowing room for adjustments.

Try breaking your morning into chunks:

  • Early Morning: Personal care (hydration, stretching, breakfast).
  • Mid-Morning: Key caregiving tasks (medications, appointments, or check-ins).
  • Late Morning: Flexible time for secondary tasks or self-care.

This way, even if something derails one part of your morning, you can still get back on track.

Step 4: Set Boundaries for Your Morning

Protecting your morning routine is just as important as creating it. Let your loved ones or other family members know when you need uninterrupted time to focus on critical tasks.

I like to use visual cues—like a “Do Not Disturb” sign on the door or setting my phone to silent during specific times—to create boundaries. This not only helps me stay focused but also teaches others to respect the importance of my routine.

Step 5: Reflect and Adjust

At the end of the week, take a few minutes to reflect on your morning routine. What worked well? What felt rushed or overwhelming? Adjust as needed to keep your schedule aligned with your caregiving priorities and personal needs.

Creating a strategic morning schedule isn’t about perfection—it’s about progress. By mentally preparing, prioritizing tasks, and building a flexible routine, you can reclaim your mornings and set the tone for a calmer, more productive day.

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7 Fresh Habits Every Caregiver Should Start This Year

By Roz Jones

As we step into a new year, it’s the perfect time to refresh how we approach our mornings. Mornings are more than just the start of the day—they’re an opportunity to set the tone for success, energy, and focus. For caregivers like us, mornings are often busy and demanding, but with a few intentional changes, they can become a source of strength and renewal.

I’ve updated my go-to morning habits for 2025, keeping them practical and tailored to the realities of caregiving. Let’s dive into seven habits that will help you start your day with purpose and positivity.

1. Start with Gratitude

Instead of reaching for your phone first thing in the morning, try starting your day with gratitude. Take 1-2 minutes to reflect on something you’re thankful for—it could be as simple as a good night’s sleep or the cup of coffee waiting for you. Gratitude helps frame your mindset for the day ahead, giving you a mental boost before tackling your caregiving responsibilities.

2. Hydrate with a Boost

This year, go beyond plain water in the morning. Add a splash of lemon or a pinch of sea salt to your water for an extra kick of hydration and electrolytes. This simple addition helps energize your body and support brain function, giving you the stamina to start your day strong.

3. Stretch and Strengthen

A few minutes of movement can make a big difference. This year, try incorporating gentle stretches combined with strength-building exercises like wall push-ups or chair squats. These quick movements not only wake up your muscles but also help build the physical resilience you need for caregiving tasks.

4. Choose a Functional Breakfast

Fuel your body with a balanced breakfast that supports sustained energy. Think about including protein (like eggs or Greek yogurt), healthy fats (like avocado or nuts), and fiber (like oatmeal or fruit). Avoid sugary cereals or pastries that might leave you feeling sluggish by mid-morning.

5. Set One Key Intention for the Day

Take a moment to ask yourself: What’s the most important thing I want to focus on today? Whether it’s prioritizing self-care, completing a specific task, or simply being present with your loved ones, setting a clear intention helps guide your day with purpose.

6. Embrace Tech to Simplify Your Morning

This year, let’s make technology work for us. Use a digital assistant or reminder app to manage your morning routine. You can schedule reminders for tasks like medication management, hydration, or even a quick motivational podcast.

7. Dedicate 10 Minutes to Something You Love

Carve out a small block of time just for you—whether it’s journaling, listening to music, reading, or enjoying a cup of tea. This is your moment to recharge before diving into the caregiving day ahead. Think of it as your daily gift to yourself.

Make This Year Your Best Yet

Starting your day with intention and care isn’t just about surviving—it’s about thriving. These updated habits are designed to fit seamlessly into your busy mornings while giving you the tools to face each day with renewed energy and focus. If you’re ready to take control of your mornings and transform your caregiving journey, start small and add a habit or two at a time. And don’t forget to revisit my previous blog, 7 Morning Musts for Caregivers, for even more inspiration.

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2. Tools and Resources:  Find caregiver stress management tools and gain perspective from other caregiver’s experiences.

3. LEARN TO: Ask for help, accept help when it is offered, and acknowledge yourself on this caregiving journey. Hear from experts on how to balance caregiving responsibilities by taking care of your needs and involving others to help manage the natural stress and isolation of being a caregiver. 

Navigating the Holidays After Loss: A Caregivers Guide to Finding Joy Again

By Roz Jones

The holidays are meant to be a time of joy, family, and celebration—but for caregivers who have recently lost a loved one, the season can bring a mix of emotions that make it feel anything but festive. If this is your first holiday season without your family member, you may be feeling overwhelmed, isolated, or simply unsure how to move forward. I understand because, I just recently lost my mom and as caregivers, we give so much of ourselves, and losing someone we care for can leave a space that feels impossible to fill.

But even in the midst of grief, there are ways to reclaim moments of peace, love, and joy. It’s okay to acknowledge your pain and sadness while also finding ways to nurture yourself this holiday season. In this updated guide, I want to share some practical tips to help you navigate the holiday season with more peace, even if your heart is heavy.

If you’re looking for additional support and tips, I encourage you to revisit my earlier post “Take Back Your Joy This Holiday Season After Losing Your Loved One”. It provides valuable insights into emotional preparation, creating new traditions, and seeking support, which are the first steps in your journey to healing.

Now, let’s dive into some new strategies for caregivers during the holiday season.

1. Acknowledge Your Emotions—All of Them

First and foremost, it’s okay not to be okay this holiday season. You may feel sadness, frustration, even guilt, and that’s all part of the healing process. Caregiving often means putting others first, but now it’s your turn to care for yourself. Don’t push down your emotions—recognize and honor them. It may help to journal your thoughts, talk to a trusted friend, or simply allow yourself quiet time to reflect.

Taking a moment to pause and reflect on how you’re feeling will help you understand your needs in this vulnerable time. Let go of the pressure to be happy for others—your grief is valid, and allowing yourself space to grieve will actually help you heal.

2. Set Boundaries with Holiday Expectations

The holiday season often comes with high expectations, from hosting dinners to buying the perfect gift. If you’re not up for it this year, say no. This doesn’t make you any less of a caregiver or a loving family member. Setting boundaries is not about being selfish; it’s about being self-aware and compassionate with yourself. If social events or family gatherings feel overwhelming, let your loved ones know what you’re comfortable with, or give yourself permission to skip them altogether.

Remember: You are in control of what you choose to engage with this season.

3. Create Space for Memory and Connection

If you’re grieving the loss of a loved one, it can feel as if the holiday spirit is gone forever. Instead of resisting the feelings of loss, consider creating a meaningful way to connect with your loved one’s memory.

  • Light a candle in their honor during meals or gatherings.
  • Write a letter to your loved one, sharing your thoughts and what you miss most about them.
  • Look through photos or create a small memory shrine where you can reflect on the beautiful moments you shared.
  • These acts can create a sense of closeness, even if your loved one is no longer physically with you. The holidays don’t have to be just about what’s in front of you—they can also be about remembering and cherishing what was.

4. Volunteer and Give Back

Volunteering can be an incredibly healing way to spend your time during the holidays. It shifts your focus from your own grief to offering support and compassion to others. Whether it’s serving meals at a local shelter or organizing a toy drive, giving back in the spirit of your loved one’s legacy can provide a sense of purpose and fulfillment.

If you’re not up to a big commitment, consider donating in small ways. Maybe you can donate clothing, non-perishable food, or toiletries to a local cause that was close to your loved one’s heart.

5. Embrace New Holiday Traditions

Though the thought of maintaining old traditions may be comforting, sometimes we need to adapt and find new ways to enjoy the holiday season. Consider starting a new tradition that reflects where you are right now. For example:

  • A Quiet Holiday: Instead of hosting a big dinner, opt for a peaceful day of self-care—think of a cozy movie marathon, taking a long walk, or visiting a park that brings you peace.
  • A Gratitude Jar: Encourage your family to write down things they are grateful for on slips of paper and place them in a jar throughout the season. This can be a reflective and positive way to acknowledge what’s good, even when everything feels hard.
  • New traditions help remind you that while things have changed, there are still ways to create joy and meaning moving forward.

6. Seek Support—You Don’t Have to Do This Alone

Don’t forget, you don’t have to carry this burden alone. Seeking support from family, friends, or a professional can ease your emotional load. Consider joining a grief support group where you can share your experiences and learn coping strategies from others who are going through similar challenges. There are also online communities where you can find solace without leaving your home.

If you’re not ready for a group setting, a counselor or therapist can offer personalized support. Don’t hesitate to lean on people who genuinely care about your well-being.

7. Take Care of Yourself Physically

Grief can take a toll on your physical health as much as it does on your emotional state. Make sure you’re eating regularly, staying hydrated, and getting enough rest. Exercise, even in small doses, can do wonders for relieving stress and lifting your mood.

It’s okay to take breaks and nurture your body during this time. Be mindful of your needs—both mental and physical—and let those be a priority.

8. Plan for Future Holidays—One Step at a Time

While you’re focusing on getting through this holiday season, remember it’s also okay to plan for the future. The holidays will likely feel different next year, and creating small steps toward how you want to experience them can help ease anxiety. For example, you may decide that you want to travel, or perhaps you want to invite more people over for a festive meal. Whatever your vision is, take it one step at a time.

The holiday season after losing a loved one is undoubtedly difficult, but with intention and self-compassion, it is possible to find moments of peace and joy, even in the hardest of times. Whether you’re taking it slow or creating new rituals, your journey is your own, and there’s no right or wrong way to experience it.

Remember, grief is a process that doesn’t have a timetable. If you need to take a step back, give yourself permission to do so. You are not alone—there is support out there, and there are many ways to heal.

For more tips on navigating this season, check out my previous blog post Take Back Your Joy This Holiday Season After Losing Your Loved One. I’m here to support you through this journey, and together we can embrace the holidays in a way that honors both your grief and your healing.

Take care of you, because you matter.


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1. YOU ARE NOT ALONE: The problems you face as a caregiver are experienced by other caregivers. Knowing that you’re not alone can be comforting. 

2. Tools and Resources:  Find caregiver stress management tools and gain perspective from other caregiver’s experiences.

3. LEARN TO: Ask for help, accept help when it is offered, and acknowledge yourself on this caregiving journey. Hear from experts on how to balance caregiving responsibilities by taking care of your needs and involving others to help manage the natural stress and isolation of being a caregiver.