By Roz Jones
When a former spouse or baby daddy is sick and needs your care, it can be a challenging situation to navigate. Whether you have a good or strained relationship with your ex, providing care for them can be emotionally and mentally taxing. In this blog, we will explore some tips and resources that can help you provide care for your former spouse while taking care of yourself.
Assess Your Ability to Provide Care
Before committing to caregiving, it’s important to assess your ability to provide care. This includes evaluating your availability, financial resources, and emotional capacity. If you have other caregiving responsibilities, work commitments, or health issues, you may need to consider alternative care options such as hiring a professional caregiver or enlisting the help of family and friends. It’s also important to set boundaries and establish clear expectations for caregiving, to prevent burnout and resentment.
Communicate with Your Ex
Open and honest communication is key to successful caregiving. If you have a good relationship with your ex, it may be easier to discuss caregiving arrangements and establish a plan of care. However, if your relationship is strained, it may be helpful to forgive yourself and them. You could also enlist the help of a mediator or therapist to facilitate communication. It’s important to listen to your ex’s needs and preferences and to communicate your own boundaries and limitations.
Seek Support
Caregiving can be emotionally and mentally challenging, and it’s important to seek support when needed. This can include reaching out to friends and family for help, joining a support group for caregivers, or seeking professional counseling. It’s also important to prioritize self-care, such as getting enough rest, exercise, and healthy meals.
Access Resources
There are many resources available for caregivers, including government programs, nonprofit organizations, and community services. These resources can provide financial assistance, respite care, and emotional support. Some resources to consider include the Family Caregiver Alliance, the National Alliance for Caregiving, and the National Council on Aging.
Providing care for a former spouse can be a challenging and complex situation. By assessing your ability to provide care, communicating with your ex, seeking support, and accessing resources, you can provide the best care possible while taking care of your own needs.
May is Mental Health Month: Take Control of Your Mental Health with 31 Daily Tips

Mental Health America is proud to announce May as Mental Health Month, a time to prioritize and take control of your well-being. This year’s theme is Take Some Time To Look Around, Look Within emphasizing the importance of creating a supportive and uplifting environment for yourself and those around you. To help you achieve this goal, MHA has created a daily calendar with 31 tips for improving your mental health for the month.
Whether you’re struggling with anxiety, depression, stress, or simply looking for ways to maintain a healthy mindset the Mental Health Calendar has something for everyone with each day featuring a different tip or activity to promote self-care, resilience, and positive thinking.
Download the Mental Health Calendar now to learn how to cultivate a more supportive and nurturing environment for yourself and your aging loved one, while also building stronger relationships with those around you!